In 2003 I published the sequel to my first book, “The Diary” and called it “The Survivor”. Whilst the first book was focussed upon the very short life and death of my twin daughter Megan, the second investigated the life of my surviving twin son, Rhys.
I wanted to educate medical professionals and twin loss families that life did not start and stop in the hospital, but continued on through the life and experiences of the surviving multiple birth children who were still with us. I wanted to share that although as parents, it seemed so important for us to keep all our attention centred upon our children who had died, we needed to find the strength and courage to be there for those who were still living. We needed to remember that they also needed us, as much as we needed them.
The Survivor gave me the opportunity to make use of new knowledge acquired through, (believe it or not), my justice studies course. Subjects such as ethics, sociology and psychology proved important stepping stones in my efforts to expand upon the knowledge of twin loss issues that sadly, still seemed to remain lost and forgotten, gathering the dust of time as they sat alone.
In 2002 bereavement care colleague Dr Jane Warland and I gave a talk to the Apex South Australian State Board about our plans to create a specialised twin loss kit. We had the ideas, and we had the componentry, but we did not have the funds to make our ambitions become a reality. Apex did! Because the Apex Australia Twin Loss Awareness Kit, as the project eventually became known, proved to be such an important milestone in our twin loss work, I felt it would be remiss of me to not include it in this particular book.
Please read the speech that I gave to Apex in